Yes, yes I know….it’s been ages…..
No…I haven’t stopped blogging, I have only been trying to add a bit of productivity to my currently chaotic life. In the middle of work, exams, house hold chores, organizing the kids holiday schedules and everything in between I haven’t had much time to get inspired to do or think creatively. A couple of times over the past few weeks, I have reminisced on how much I took for granted back in college, where all I had to worry about was - what to wear to class, how to get through a boring lecture or my CGPA…..I was looking at life through rose colored glasses then.
Fast forward ten years and I am wearing high definition spectacles, long sighted, short sighted or in between – I am seeing the real world as it is. Now I have real stuff to worry about, I try not to worry but there are times we get thrown things beyond our control and we just have to deal with them. I had a conversation with a colleague at work today, a style icon In her own right, you could hear her laugh all the way down the hall and she is always up to organizing some fun spirited competition to lighten up the mood at work. Most people have an issue they are dealing with, the beauty of this lady is that you could never tell. On the outside she looks soft and delicate but on the inside she is hard and tough……lesson one made me ask myself - how do I handle adversity? - don’t wear your problems..everyone has something they are trying to deal with continue to stay strong and positive and look fabulous.
What started off the conversation with Kay was her looking round the local shops at lunch time for some turn up shorts. I asked what they were for and she said she is off to camp tomorrow with twenty five kids tomorrow for a week. She has three other adults with her and I’m like, taking time off work now for me would be for a holiday ( a relaxing holiday) not running after a bunch of high adrenaline teenagers who probably wouldn’t listen to you anyway. Then she explained the situation with her kid and that was lesson number two…..Patience..the problems we face should build us and make us better people. She has learnt to be more patient with others after having to deal with her sons issues.
So Kay told me of the issues she is having with her teenage son who is being threatened with an expulsion from school by the authorities. The boy isn’t doing drugs, weapons or anything of that nature at school, he is being kicked out because he is jumpy, never concentrates, distracts other kids in class and gets rude to teachers. Doesn’t sound out of the ordinary to me, I have heard worse, but she assures me it really is bad. She has been working with the local authorities and a child psychologist to help improve things because if he does get kicked out of school, his chances of getting into another good school is minimal.
Being a mum myself, it can be very worrying and embarrassing when a child is labeled as trouble. These days teenagers seem to think they know everything and it takes a lot of God given patience to make them see the true nature of things.
My colleagues story of what she is going through with her son at school prompted me to look up some online help. And I found this article by Jeanne Potts Faulconer on Family and Home Network Her guidelines are more applicable to younger kids. To sum it up no matter how much a child pushes you to that very edge, continue to love, continue to stay positive believing it’s a phase and underneath all that rage is a beautiful heart, continue to endure and persevere, continue to seek new ways to help him overcome it and to help yourself get through it, continue being hopeful…
'A mighty power and stronger Man from his throne has hurled,For the hand that rocks the cradle Is the hand that rules the world.'~ William Ross Wallace
It's not mothers day, but I'm dedicating this minute to all super mums out there who work as part time cook, cleaner, maid and chauffer. Working round the clock to bring up kids who will define our future. It's not an easy task but we are made of tough stuff :0)
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